I’m 37 years old. I’ll be turning 38 on December 6th… I can basically feel 40 creeping up behind me like a creature from one of those old school b movies. I look around at my life and I’m slightly disappointed. Not that my life isn’t full and complete, It’s just that there are things I wanted to accomplish in my life. So I decided to make a list of 40 things I want to do by the time I’m 40 and thought I’d share it with you guys, because you all rock and I can tell you all just about anything.
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- Travel over seas
See I am planning to visit Japan next Summer so this one will be done. I have a whole Travel Bucket List of all the places I want to go visit. I am actually thinking of moving to Japan for a year or so. I want to totally experience another culture and experience things through brand new eyes. I heard once that visiting another country, especially one that does not speak English, really puts things in perspective and show you just how small you are.
2. Go back to school.
I want to complete my Bachelor degree in Social Work. It’s important to me that I complete my education, especially with my ultimate goal of moving to Japan. If go as an Expat I’ll need at least a BA in something.
3.. Get Married
We’ve been engaged for about a year and our wedding date keeps getting pushed back because… life. So hopefully in the next two years we can manage to tie the knot.
4. Grow My Relationship with Christ
Let me clarify, I have a relationship with Jesus but I want to expand and make certain it is ever-growing. Like a Fire….
5. Reach Platinum Premier with Perfectly Posh
It’s the highest level and a BIG deal to get that far in the company. As far as I know there are no black women at this level so hopefully I can be the first!
6. Stop smoking
Guys, I really want to quit, but I have been smoking since I was 15 and at this point it’s really a full-blown addiction. Send your prayers because this is going to be a hard one to achieve.
7. Lose about 150lbs
I am the largest I have ever been. I am 300 lbs. That is hurts my heart to say it. I’ve grown sop much as a person because in the past I would be crying and depressed about it, but now I look at it like a challenge. I do not want to die. I don’t want to be a statistic. I also do not want bypass surgery. I want to lose the weight on my own. Prayers… Lots of prayers and will power.
8. Go to a big concert or music festival
We’re talking Coachella, Warp Tour, or Essence Music Festival level event. I have always wanted to go to one of those, and yes I do understand that I am not a teeny bopper anymore. However, I do think that the idea that I can’t like certain things or dress a certain way because of my age is society’s issue, not mine. I want to go and I am doing it.
9. Go Shark Cage Diving
Yep you heard right., I totally want to do that. I absolutely love sharks and I can’t wait to get up close and personal… in a safe way.
10. Learn to Swim
There is a long-standing stereotype that black women don’t like to swim. I like being in the water and I have always wanted to learn to swim. I plan to take lessons soon. That might actually help the weight loss goal as well, so two birds with one stone. #Sweet
11. Play the Entire Resident Evil Series
I loved this game. I played the first one but never got around to the rest of them, so I’d like to just go through the whole series. #GamerChick
12. Get my Teeth Fixed
I have had some dental issues for a while now. It real keeps me from living a full life. I don’t smile often, I want to start a YouTube Channel – I’ve got great ideas. It would be Lit as the kids say. But I can’t do that right now… It really depresses me so I am going to go ahead and get that taken care of.
13. Go to ComiCon
The real one – in San Diego, California. I have always wanted to go, I am a huge sci-fi/fantasy fan and would love to see all those exhibits and the actors who bring my favorite characters to life. It’s a huge goal for me. You see when I was going through a severe depression, when nobody was there for me, those shows, movies, comics etc were always there. They are my happy place. Society often shuns people like me who are into this stuff, however the Geek Community is really loving and we embrace each other for our quirkiness, it’s actually encouraged, so why not go to the biggest gathering of geeks and nerds in the country?
14. Be a Big Girl Blogger
I want my blog to be full-fledged business by the time I am 40.That is giving mew two years to get my shit together.
15. Take Some Blogging Courses
I want to be in a position that I can invest in my blog knowledge and learn how to actually make passive income as a blogger.
16. Start Selling My DIY Makeover Projects
I’ve become quit handy with a glue gun, glitter, and spray paint. I would like to flip these items, my house is getting quit full. I would like this to a be secondary business for my family. #SideHustle
17. Volunteer in a Foreign Country.
While making our Travel Bucket List I talked to my fiancée about doing some sort of service project for the people in those countries. Just a way to show my gratitude and love while visiting their homeland. That’s really important to me.
18. Go on a Bonafide Road Trip
I want to go on the type of road trip where it lasts a couple of days. A good multi state trip to who knows where. Just a trip with the love of my life, spending quality time together, just driving and chilling and”Oh look at that” and “Let’s stop there!” and such. 🙂
19. Reconcile with My Boys
Yeah we have major issues. There are problems that go pretty deep. It’s kind of perspective issue, they see things one way, I see things another way. We need to get on the same playing field.
20. Get More Involved with LGBTQ Community in Indianapolis
For those who didn’t know – I’m gay. I know there are people in my “family” that are in need of services. I want to work with the agencies that help and offer my assistance in whatever way i can, whatever they need. I want to really be there. You see my family and I don’t speak much. Mostly because they really can’t handle the fact that I am gay and that I’m in a committed relationship with a woman, a healthy loving relationship I might add. So I know how isolating coming out can be, and how bad it can get. i want to be there for those who don’t have anywhere else to go.
21. Help Manna Pantry Grow
My fiancée started a mobile food pantry. We deliver food to those in need in Indianapolis. I want to help the pantry grow. I want to help her get grants, donations, a pantry vehicle, and a possibly even a full-blown community center later down the line. She wants to help, I want to be the rock she needs as she grows.
22. Take a dance class.
I am can’t dance, I can’t talk, the only thing about is the way I walk. lol Yeah I am not so get at the whole dancing thing. I want to take some classes and see if Improve enough to dance in public without several shots being involved. #LiquidCourage
23. Learn to Drive
Yeah, most embarrassing Erica fact ever. I am terrified of driving. Like I lock up – complete fear mode. I am terrified of getting into an accident, even as a passenger. I know I need to get over it, I need to work through my fears and get my license. #Freedom
24. Get a Breast Reduction
yeah – we’re going to call this one a maybe – we’ll see how my bra size decrease with the weight loss first but I really, REALLY want smaller boobs. I am a 42 I. You can’t even buy that size in a store. I have to special order my bras and honestly it’s a complete hassle. They get in my way all the time, it’s just not fun. Oddly enough I don’t have back problems. I think because right now I am so big that it doesn’t bother me. We’ll see.
25. Be a Better Cook
Ya’ll I want to make something that looks like those guys on Masterchef made it. I am not a horrible cook but yeah I am nowhere near that level, like some Instagram and Pinterest worthy cooking abilities. Boy, do I have some work to do.
26. Go to an Anime Convention
i don’t think I’ve ever talked about anime on here. I am ADDICTED to anime. I could watch Animation on my fire stick all day long. Sometimes I do, but I try to be sensitive to my fiance, she is not a big fan like I am. So it would be really cool if I could go to an anime convention and just soak in all things anime and bring back some swag.
27. Write an e-book
I want to write a fantasy genre e-book. I love the fantasy genre, unicorns, elves, dragons etc. I have so many ideas swarming around in my head. It would be so awesome to get them on paper so to speak and watch them com alive. 🙂 #AuthorStatus
28. Dye My Hair Pink, or lavender, or some other crazy color
Yeah , I know women my age don’t do that. But you know what I have always wanted to. I want to express myself with my appearance, it is who I am. So society kiss my entire… yeah we aren’t going to go there, but yeah it’s happening. #FreeToBeMe
29. Try Different Foods
I am not the type who likes to try different foods. I am pretty average when it comes to food. Regular American food. With my ideas of world travel I really need to get out of my comfort zone and try some different things. I’m allergic to shellfish so I can’t try everything but I can try what I can.
30. Have Courage
I want to have the courage to do things that scare me. To look at the world without fear. To just go out there and do it no matter how silly I look, or what someone thinks about it. To live my life solely on my terms.
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.”
31. Start Singing Again
I used to be quit talented. Now probably not Mariah Carey talented but pretty good. I never wanted a career in music or anything I just loved to sing. I want to get back into singing and learning how to embrace this new voice I have.
32. Be Happy
I suffer from depression and fear. I feel like the level of fear I have should be a clinical diagnosis because it is paralyzing. I want to be happy. I fight against depression everyday. I refuse to take medication, I just feel like once I start down that road it will be never-ending, I’ll be on something for the rest of my life and I just don’t want that. What I do is find things that make me happy. Find things that make me want to get out of bed, that make me want to go out and have fun with my loved ones. When you can’t reach your goals you #BuildALadder. The build a ladder movement started by Youtuber Martina at Eat your Kimchi. I adore her and this movement has helped me tremendously. Basically you do one thing. step by step, everyday, just a little something here, a little something there. Just get up. build your ladder to help you climb out of your situation. I’ll take that with me always.
33. Get Serious About Goal Setting
They say a goal without a plan is a wish. I am so guilty of setting goals and went about my day. I wished for those sales, I wished to advance to this level, I never actually took the steps necessary, step out my comfort zone enough to get it done. I want to get super serious about my goals and reach them and beyond.
34. Go Whale Watching
I adore whales. They are so majestic and otherworldly, a truly magnificent creature. I see God mostly in nature, I look at nature and admire his work, thanking him for creating this beautiful world. Anyways back to the whales, I have wanted to see a whale in real life, I am going to cry. I know I am going to cry. I cried at the Shedd Aquarium when I saw the whales so I know seeing Orcas in the wild or a Humpback Whale… I am going to totally lose my shit. I know it.
35. Explore More of Indiana
I have lived here my entire life, I want to go out and experience different parts of my state. There’s a lot of stuff out there to see and I want to live it up!
36. Get Waxed
DO NOT LAUGH. I have had my eyebrows waxed but I want to go get everything waxed. EVERYTHING. I am pretty sure it is going to hurt, i Imagine it to be very painful because my eyebrows honey makes me cry, so I can only imagine, but I am sure the end result will be worth it.
37. Watch Baby Sea turtles Hatch
I can not begin to express to you guys how much I love sea turtles. With those little faces. I am a big fan of sea turtles. I have wanted to volunteer with an organizations that helps them get to sea safely. That would be so cool. I live in Indiana, so no ocean around here, but honey I would gladly travel to get the opportunity to be a champion for sea turtles.
38. Investing in Our Future and Basic Adulting Stuff
i am so guilty. I haven’t invested anything in our future. Good thing I have some decent working years still ahead of me, there’s still time. I need to sit down with an advisor who can tell me what I need to do to secure a Nice little nest egg for when I decide to give up all this glamour and settle down into retirement. I also want to get a nice insurance policy so that my kids can bury me when the time comes, and have a nice little amount of cash for them too.
39. TIme Management
I am terrible at this. I need to have working hours, and time that I spend with my family. I am in my office so much it seems like life is passing me by. That is not why I chose to be self-employed. I didn’t want to be absent so much, I wanted to be there more, so I need to really figure out a system that works for my family.
40. Go to Several Blogging Conventions
I want to soak up all the knowledge I can and this seems like the spot to do it. The networking opportunity is a big appeal to me. The blogging community is so open to sharing ideas and collabs and I would love the chance to connect with other bloggers in person. 🙂
So there you go my 40 by 40 list. All the hidden desires of my heart spilled out for you guys. Let me know some of your I wanna do this REALLY bad things in the comments. 🙂
Thanks for reading my very long list. 🙂
Peace and love