The 7 Day Family Challenge from the Zigler Family launched yesterday. I am super excited to take this opportunity to enhance my family by utilizing the tools from top experts. I of course am a little behind. (Child if you could see my inbox right now !) I made a commitment to really digging into the challenges and sharing with you all what I have found and how I plan to implement the things I learned.
Day 1 of the challenge was all about communication and featured Gary Chapman, the best selling author of the 5 Love Languages. Through a video I was introduced to the topic of the 5 Love Languages. Now I have heard of the 5 Love Languages before but never really gave it much thought. I guess I just figured that it sounded like it was therapy-talk and not something I would be interested in. Today though I have grown and open to new experiences even if they make me uncomfortable.
The 5 Love Languages
- Words of Affirmation
This is saying things like “I like the way you did your hair today” or “Dinner was excellent.” In a nutshell it’s feeling validated. Knowing that you are valued. That is important to me. I don’t think I received much of that growing up and I crave it so much!
2. Acts of Service
This is the language of my fiancee. It’s all about doing things for your loved one. It’s not doing things you want to do, it’s doing things that they would want you to do. For those who speak thins language action truly speak louder than words.
3. Giving Gifts.
Now this is not about the cost of the gift it is about the thought behind it. Like for instance I am a Cherry Pepsi addict. Soda is not terribly expensive but if she goes out to run errands and comes home with a fountain drink for me I appreciate it.
4. Quality time
According to Mr Chapman we are often doing this one wrong. It’s not sitting together watching TV. It’s a tech time out. It’s just being together, conversing, playing a board game etc. It’s actual time. together.
Now I thought mine was Physical touch but I took the assessment and found that my language is actually Words of Affirmation. I can totally see that. Validation. Just put a bow on it and accept it. 🙂
I plan to do more around the house and taking some burden off of my fiancee – because that is her love language. Knowing now how to express my love for her, that will make her feel validated in her own right will go a long way to solidify our relationship.
You can find your Love Language HERE.
Come back and comment below and let me know what you got.